I'm sure there is lots of very valuable information in the remainder of this book, if I can just keep very mindful that this was all written 20+ years ago.Jay Wiseman is the charming author of such BDSM resource books as his Erotic Bondage Handbook and SM 101: A Realistic Introduction. Still, I plan to finish the book, and will update my review if I do. So, knowing how dated a lot of the advice is for the 'Rope' section makes me hesitant to want to heed the words of upcoming chapters, the ones I really don't know anything about (gags, handcuffs, chains, whips, paddling, etc). I'm sure this was useful and valid information 25 years ago, I don't feel it is very helpful now in 2023. Types of rope used, suggestions to go to a Bait & Tackle shop or a Magician's Supply Shop to find rope. For example, Shibari/Rope is one aspect of BDSM I have spent a very minimal amount of time looking into for myself, and I've instantly found a lot of the examples/suggestions in this book dated. but I just wish there was an updated version that wasn't over 20 years old haha.

I'm only about 40% in and have defiantly enjoyed the chapters on aspects such as consent, safe words, ethics, checking in, negotiation. etc etc Now that's not to say I'm not appreciating the majority of the information. Information on placing magazine and newspaper personal ads, the cost/benefit analysis of paying for landline voicemail services, advice on how to wear special patterned bandanas to signal what type of BDSM you're into. I believe this is from the 90's, and a lot of the chapters show. However, it seems a bit overdue for an updated version. 2) This boo seems to be HIGHLY recommended from several sources. I might have been better off just buying the Kindle version or a physical copy to read. Very stiff, no connection, no nuance in tone, no emotion. I feel like he's presenting this book as if its some kind of 1980's cooperate instructional video.

Two things primarily: 1) First and foremost is the narrator. Even though I'm sure a lot of the information here will be useful as an introduction to this world, a lot of things do throw me off from finishing this book. Picked up this book based off of SEVERAL recommendations. 40% in so far, narrator is making this rough.

Sm 101 by jay wiseman